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  This is what always happens
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  I end up coming over here, I spend hours going
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  through stuff, thinking I can firm stuff out and I
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  end up anything out
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  This is Anderson Cooper
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  Just before my son, Sebastian, was born earlier this year,
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  I sold my mom's apartment and had to finally go
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  through the stuff she'd left behind when she died
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  This is cool, so here's the telegram from Frank Sinatra,
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  San Francisco International Airport to Ms
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  Gloria Vanderbilt, and I'm on my way darling, I miss
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  you and wish you were sharing the seat with me,
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  love, the feller on the white horse
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  That's kind of exactly what you would want until our
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  princess Albertson Ultra to be
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  My mom was Gloria Vanderbilt and lived a pretty epic
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  life, full of great loves and a lot of loss
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  And it turns out she saved pretty much everything
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  So far I've discovered secret journals, thousands of photographs and
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  things about her and my family I never knew before
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  Impact away in drawers and boxes, my mom left me
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  hidden notes as a kind of guy through it all
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  You know, the note says Anderson blouse and skirt I
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  was wearing when Carter died, when my brother killed himself
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  in front of her, this is what she was wearing
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  I didn't know if she had saved this
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  With all the tragedies my mom went through, she never
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  asked why me, why did this happen to me? She'd
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  always ask why not me, why should me be exempt
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  from the pain of living and losing
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  And she was right, we all lose people we love
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  and yet when it happens to us and we're grieving,
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  it feels like we're all alone, at least it does
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  for me
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  We don't talk much about loss and grief, which is
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  weird because they are among the most universal of human
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  experiences
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  So how do we keep moving forward without forgetting the
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  moments and memories and the people we miss? When you
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  lose a parent at a young age, it gives you
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  this kind of urgency for life like this is it,
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  and you don't take anything for granted, you know? In
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  my new podcast, I'll be talking with people whose insights
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  and humor are helping me as I go through this
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  grieving process that all of us will go through at
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  some point
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  Pain's part of life, just no two ways about it
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  Loss is part of life, there's no two ways about
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  it
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  In fact, I've met people who have not had much
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  pain in their lives, who haven't suffered much and they
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  seem to be the more miserable people that I've ever
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  met
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  It's a podcast about the people we lose, the things
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  they leave behind, and how we can live on with
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  loss and with love
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  All there is with me, Anderson Cooper, coming this fall
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  So Anderson, are you an if I die or? What
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  do you mean? Do you think like, if I die?
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  No, I'm like, when I die
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  You're a when I dare